The Tennis Journey
Hello, my name is Jeff, I am a proud husband and a father to four awesome boys. Two of my boys love tennis. All six of us like to play as a family and hit a ball around for fun occasionally, but it’s very different from the commitment and passion for the game that they show.
Our tennis journey started when my oldest was 3 at the local Wimbles tennis for tods. He is 14 now. We have accumulated a lot of useful information along the way and thought it’d be convenient to keep it all in one place for an easy access. That’s how an idea of c
entral website came about, happy to share what we have found, what has been useful for us and the resources we go to. This website is a product of our whole family efforts, the ones that are involved with tennis. Boys love to contribute and post links that they find helpful.
We did not set out to give an opinion just an overview of our journey and some of the experiences that we have had over the years with things like coaching, costs, travel, tournaments, equipment, hitting partners, routines, etc.
I am not selling anything. I provide refereeing and guiding services to those tennis families that are considering embarking on this perilous and imaginative journey. I thought that other parents may want to share some of their experiences so that we, as a community, can combine our knowledge to help others.
I made it look so easy on court all those years. No one realized how hard I had to work. No one realized how much I had to put into it. They underestimated my intensity.
Junior Tennis, made simple.
As a de facto coach and tennis parent I always see crazy tennis parents behave in strange matters when their kids play. Yelling, calling balls out, trying to coach, not talking to others etc.
Last Sunday, I sat next to tennis parents who made me imagine, what if the kid could speak back to them in a way that he could make his or her points? What would the kid say? So, this is what I imagined…Mom and Dad, I want to tell you 10 things for you to consider:
Do you realize that tennis is one of the most unfair sports that there is? I mean we come to a tournament and there is only one winner out of 32 people. My chance of winning is 1 in 32. Do the math, please.
In tennis the higher up I go, the more the entire outcome of the match is decided in a
few points. Do you realize how nerve racking this is? Yeah I’m nervous.
The pressure to win does not come from you if you want me to win. It comes from my
desire to be a champion from within. And none of your yelling or anyone’s can bring that
out. What if I don’t have it?
It is my desire to have fun, but you guys add pressure to win and remove the fun. What
is up with that? It’s the weekend!
I am a kid, not a little person, I will make hundreds of silly mistakes. Why do I have
to hear about them from you after I did what I am supposed to, make mistakes. The
score tells me I made them. I am aware, seriously.
Have you even been subject to this much pressure, how would you react? because
your questions and body language tells me you have not. Otherwise you would back off.
After I win and lose, can we just not talk about it, I just wanted to play.
Please understand the score in tennis. It is the only sport in which you can be winning
the majority of the points in a game and still lose it. Get it?
I will double fault, because we simply don’t practice it enough.
I love you, but please this is just a game. Not a reflection of your income, your frustrated dreams, your poor knowledge of the sport or anything else. It is a way to have fun. Can you look that up please. Thank you.
From now on here are the rules: if I win I pick where we eat. If I lose you do. That is all I want, and spend the weekend with you.